Holidays are fast approaching.... Many people are being care providers for family these days, especially those sandwiched between their own children and elderly parents. This time of year is always poignant for me because my mom and dad, married for 67 years, died 11 days apart in mid-December of 2006. They were both in nursing care, Mom with dementia (thankfully she still knew us), and Dad, sharp as a tack at 91, with congestive heart failure.