Seven Ways of Finding Grace Within Grief: Way 5: Letting My Yoga Dance (Dance Prayer)

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Note to readers: Welcome to Part 4, the continuation of this seven-part blog mini-series, Finding Grace within Grief, Seven Healing Ways. In this blog, I offer Positive Psychology and Let Your Yoga Dance tools to help those experiencing loss and dark times. If you are only now joining in, please return to the introduction. This is a story, so it’s best to start at the beginning.

Way 5:  Letting My Yoga Dance  (Dance Prayer)

Four months after Sarah Grace’s birth, I was given a CD for Christmas that contained a gorgeous rendition of an old hymn: Breathe on Me, Breath of God. It was exquisite. I listened. I danced. I sang. Over and over. I was enthralled. While dancing, I thought to myself, “This is a prayer! This is a dancing prayer, a Dance Prayer. I need to share this with all my students and trainees.”

From Sarah Grace’s death, Dance Prayers were born. They are an integral part of every class I teach. In my teacher training, instructors are taught how to create and lead a dance prayer, as well as choreograph their own yoga-dancing moving meditation. Dance Prayers are simply profound, and profoundly simple.

The Grace Sculpture Garden of Hearts and Souls

Joseph in the Grace GardenOne of the most important Dance Prayers that emerged, thanks to Sarah Grace, is my signature movement piece – actually, it’s her signature piece: the Grace Sculpture Garden of Hearts and Souls. This is a deeply moving dancing yoga meditation that offers healing on many levels, while building community one heart and one soul at a time. How does this happen? I ask the group to form partners; they are then instructed to choose whether one is in the role of a Heart or a Soul. All the Hearts then create a big, inner circle. The Souls form an outside circle around the hearts. With lovely, quiet music in the background, the Hearts go into the center and form a yoga sculpture. No touching. They hold their posture. Now the Souls come in, and offer touch to at least one or two Hearts. Every Heart should be touched. It can be a touch of the hand, or toes, or shoulders. Lots of room for creativity. Everyone is now joined together. A community is formed. Once the Hearts have all been touched, they are invited to move away from the center of the garden, leaving the Souls, untouched, behind. Now the Hearts return to any part of the garden, with the question: “Where am I needed? How can I serve?” The Hearts are invited to touch one, two, or three Souls from within their new yoga posture. Sometimes people experiment with tricky balancing poses; when they are finally touched and supported, they breathe a sigh of relief. As the Hearts touch the Souls (who are holding the pose in the middle of the garden), they are invited to imagine that they’re not only touching their new friend, but also that Soul’s ancestor – a mother, father, grandparent – all the way back to the beginning of time. Healing touch. A touch of Grace. The Hearts and Souls move in and out of the Grace Garden, finding new poses, finding new friends to touch and support. In this way, both Hearts and Souls recognize that it is not more blessed to give than to receive; it is equally blessed to receive, which allows others to give. I have directed the Grace Garden thousands of times, and am constantly amazed at the teary-eyed, grateful responses from participants. People need to feel connected. The Grace Garden is a prayer without words, a prayer of movement, a Dance Prayer,

Make It Yours

Although Dance Prayers have been grace and joy for me, I understand that it might feel completely foreign for you to dance around your living room to a piece of music. But if you enjoy music, and have favorite songs - be they secular, spiritual, Broadway, drumming, or classical - an aching heart and mind can be deeply soothed just listening in a quiet space to your favorite music. Your body might not be moving as much, you might not be dancing in the Grace Garden, but you are breathing – and breath itself is a dance. Let the music dance through you – and your breath. That is enough.

Dance prayers heal. They heal me. And many others.

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Megha-Nancy Buttenheim, M.A., is the founder of Let Your Yoga Dance: Grace in Motion®. An international presenter and corporate trainer, Megha is a 27 year teacher-trainer at Kripalu Center in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. She is also a faculty member at the Nosara Yoga Institute in Guanacaste, Costa Rica and Kind Yoga School in Cape Cod, MA. She brings her passion and expertise as a lifelong dancer, actress, singer, yogi, and educator in experiential learning to all her workshops and trainings.

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